Stepdad scolds his 26-year-old stepdaughter for not reminding him of his wife's birthday: 'He said we should have warned him since we know how much time he spends at work and that things can slip his mind.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Jul 8, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

One of my unpopular opinions is that everyone needs to be better at remembering each other's birthdays. I can tell you the birthdays of at least 20 of my friends and family members, down to date and year, because I really care about them and how old they are. Time and dates are so fascinating to me, and while I don't expect everyone else to be as obsessed with them as I am, I think that you should at least know your immediate family, partner, and best friends' birthdays off the top of your head. 

If you're not a date buff, there are ways you can trick yourself into remembering birthdays. You can write down all the important birthdays in your life from January to December in order, and plan accordingly. You can put a notification on your phone to remind you of people's birthdays in advance. It's really that simple! 

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  • 01

    AITA for not reminding my mom’s husband of her birthday?

    He has been married to her for two years. Dated for one before that. I(26) knew he's quite busy but didn't think he would forget.
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  • The person whose birthday you must remember above all others is your husband or wife. If you're married to someone, you not only need to remember their birthday, but you also need to buy them a gift and try to facilitate some kind of birthday celebration for them. It's the least you could do.

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    On Mom's birthday, my brother and I got her one present each. Her favorite actress is starring in a new series so I bought her the novel it's based on, so she can read it before the show is released. My brother got her a Popmart figurine.
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    When we went over to their house and her husband realized that he forgot, he got upset. He said we should have warned him since we know how much time he spends at work and that things can slip his mind.
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    SneakySneakySquirrel NTA. If he's so successful at work, surely he knows how to put important dates on a calendar.
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    LabradorDeceiver Not so sure, if his workplace is anything like mine. I have superiors who forget their own duties so often that you can tell that they want to add "Remind superiors of their duties" to MY duties, very very much. Fortunately, I'm union, so any attempts to enlist me as a spare brain fall flat. I just watch them blow their deadlines week after week. The same deadlines, on a schedule that we've followed for twenty years.
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    If Stepdad has any level of management authority, I would imagine he has a constant round-robin of immediate reports reminding him to do his job.
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    awgeezwhatnow Then he can plug it into his cell phone like any adult would do. I'll bet he doesn't forget dates that are important to him.
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    Tmorgan-OWL YES! important to HIM
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    Sadia Elora Sounds like mom's birthday just isn't on his priority list, that's all.
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    Wild-Card-543 For his birthday you should buy him a calendar.
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    ululating-unicorn And circle Mom's birthday on it.
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    Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq Circle the wrong day and see if he notices.
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    Unacceptable_Lemons Not gonna lie, a cool calendar with a theme he likes, pre-filled with important dates like family birthdays and such, would be a decent and useful gift.
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    Existing_Try_2857 The real issue is that, instead of owning his own screw up, he tried to blame you for "not reminding him". That's just a really bad look for a grown a man, who has a passing fancy with how calendars work and presumable has a smart phone, with a what's it called, yeah, it's a freaking calendar!!! I feel bad for your mom that she is married to someone so self absorbed, he can't be bothered to remember her bday.
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    Weak-Elephant-1760 It's not your job to remind a grown man of his wife's birthday
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    Littlebit1013 I'm betting this guy is used to the women in his life to remind him about birthdays. He needs to take responsibility.
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    squirtlemoonicorn Plus choosing the gift, and the card, wrapping the gift, writing the card, and reminding him eleventy times to sign it.
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    Mel_Melu Which begs the question, what was he doing for the first two years?
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    a_round_a_bout So I have an extremely busy job, and my colleagues have busy jobs. And I know other people with busy jobs. And guess what we all have in common? We all live by our calendars. Do you also know what successful people don't do? Blame others for their bulls mistakes.
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    mpurdey12 NTA $5 says that if you had reminded him of your mother's birthday, he would have gotten annoyed and defensive and snapped at you that he knew when his wife/your mother's birthday is.
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    aloha78 Or try to make OP go buy something behalf and he'd pay her back. on his
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    lizndale Oh, so it's YOUR fault that he forgot her birthday. Yikes.
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